Kreed RevereIf shame worked, estrangement wouldn't exist. In order to repair, you need curiosity, which is slower than shame. It's also the only one of the two that's ever actually worked.
Kreed RevereThere's a sentence estranged parents hear that lands like a verdict: you knew better, and you just didn't do better.
Kreed RevereMany parents believe they're helping while unknowingly teaching a child that love is contingent on self-correction. That if they can just be a little less emotional, the relationship will finally feel peaceful. That isn't peace. That's adaptation.
Kreed RevereThe cultural argument has a bit of truth. Culture does shape how estrangement is understood and normalized. AND there is a significant difference between culture shapes how estrangement is understood and culture is why your child left.
